Trans men are MEN. Not special edition sparkly vampire fluffy unicorn womyn-space-compatible men-lite. It is utterly, utterly, utterly fucked up to even suggest that they should be allowed in womens’ spaces, especially at the expense of trans women.
freedominwickedness (via kiriamaya)
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God I can’t believe this still needs to be said but -
If you’re celebrating something that’s main point is to “make men think before they objectify a women” and it does so by showing hyper-sexualized but vague shots of a person, and it turns out the person isn’t a cis woman and it ””””makes men think”””” because not everyone is cis
You
are
a
trans-misogynist
Trans women get called “traps” and these commercials and other fuckery are using that stereotype. And the reason trans women are murdered most of the time is because a cis man doesn’t “think” when this shit happens - he gets fucking angry. The trap scenario can kill a MAAB trans person and people are using it to make points that only benefit cis women.
Stop throwing trans women and non-binary conforming MAAB folk under the bus for your goddamn feminism.
insisting that everyone with a penis has male privilege is basically equating penises with maleness, which is cissexism and„„„„
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a tool of the patriarchy
#surprise you accidentally kicked urself in the ass
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A Trans 101 For Trans People
- You are human. You are worthy of respect. You deserve to be treated with the same dignity as anyone else. There is nothing inherently wrong with your gender. You are not broken, you are not disgusting, you do not deserve to be hurt.
- You’ve been brought up and live in a world that’s designed to erase and demonize your existence, you’ve probably internalized a lot of that- and that’s not your fault. But it can be hard to deal with. But you aren’t alone in dealing with it. And sometimes you have to buy into it to be able to handle it (trigger warning: transphobic violence). And that’s okay.
- Your gender is no more or less than anyone else’s. Your history doesn’t make you “not really” or “less” your gender than someone with a cis history, it just makes you a person of your gender with a different history.
- You do not deserve to be held to higher standards than cis people. You do not have to “prove” your gender by forcing yourself into societal roles that may not fit. You are not “failing” anyone by fitting into societal roles that are comfortable. It is not your job to break down the binary/patriarchy/or anything else. If you want to, go for it, but you have no obligation to do anything for cis people just because you are trans.
- Being yourself does not hurt trans rights (so long as you aren’t trying to do so while stopping others from being who they are) and is not a reason why people don’t have to treat you with respect. There is nothing wrong with being a feminine man or masculine woman, or being a person who’s comfortable in their body, or being a person who doesn’t transition all the way, or being out about having a non-binary or genderqueer gender. You have not “failed” anyone by doing this, you are not “less” of your gender than someone else. Being who you are is not a valid argument for why people can’t treat you as who you truly are.
- No one else has the right to say your body needs to be changed. It only does if you need to change it. Or if you want to change it, that’s valid, too. Your body does not make you “less” your gender. It doesn’t make you “not really” your gender. It doesn’t mean you’re trapped in someone else’s body. You do not have to fix your body to “become” your gender- you already are your gender. All you need to do is what you need to do to be comfortable in your body. And if that includes reclaiming your right to label your own body, you are allowed to do that.
- You have just as much of a right to privacy as anyone else. You do not need to tell anyone about your body, your medical history, or anything else. Whether or not your body needs to be changed for you to be comfortable, you do not have to change it to deserve to be treated as who you are. You do not owe anyone intimate details about your personal life before you can be treated as who you are.
- You have no obligation to educate anyone. This includes trans people, but is most important with cis people. You are not a walking encyclopedia of transgender and/or transsexual information, you are a person. You do not have to answer every question any cis person comes up with, you do not have to represent trans people as a whole, (see 7) you do not have to bare the most personal and vulnerable parts of your soul to other people on demand.
- Not educating people does not “hurt” trans rights. NEVER let anyone try to guilt you into educating people or doing something you don’t want to do by insisting that doing otherwise will “destroy trans rights/acceptance/whatever”. Trying to force trans people to become walking information desks or to put themselves in dangerous situations regardless of whether or not you’re even up for dealing with this destroys trans rights and shows a great deal of intolerance. Asserting that you don’t have to tell anyone anything you don’t want to? That really doesn’t.
- If you do want to educate people, you are allowed to set limits and boundaries. You are allowed to say that you won’t talk about certain issues, or that you will only talk about them on your terms. You are allowed to decide which people you will talk to about which issues. You are allowed to change these boundaries if you become uncomfortable educating people you were previously willing to educate. You are not obligated to educate anyone just because you educated someone else.
- You deserve to take care of yourself- whatever that means. You deserve to be comfortable and safe. You deserve not to be in dangerous situations. If you can’t handle something alone, you deserve to ask for- and get- help or, if you can, take a break from it until you can handle it. Or just stop doing it all together, that’s okay. Taking care of yourself does not make you weak, it does not make you an attention-grabber or overdramatic, it does not make you “less” your gender, it does not mean you betray other trans people by not being a full-time (or even part-time) activist. You’re human, you have limits, and that’s okay.
- You deserve to have your boundaries respected. Any boundaries- how and where people can touch you, what information you give to who and when, what places you feel comfortable going or who you feel comfortable going with, what people can tell others about you.
- You deserve to have the words you are and aren’t comfortable being referred to as respected. You deserve to have the proper pronouns used (and, if there are times when it’s unsafe for that to happen, you deserve to have your safety maintained by those around you), you deserve to be called the proper name, you deserve to have the words you want used to describe your body used, you deserve not to be called by any label, pronoun, word, or name that you don’t want to be called.
- If you’re asking for something that you need to feel respected, comfortable, and safe- you are not asking for too much. Your identity is not “too complicated”. Your needs are not less important than anyone elses’.
- You are human. You are worthy of respect. You deserve to be treated with the same dignity as anyone else. There is nothing inherently wrong with your gender. You are not broken, you are not disgusting, you do not deserve to be hurt.
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Let’s stop policing ourselves and each other. Gender is one game that you don’t have to play by anyone else’s rules. The real danger in this ‘gender is a social construct’, ‘abolish gender’ crap is that in gendertopic spaces, anyone who is not subversive enough, or is seen as ‘gender normative’ already fails. We (and I’m guilty of this too) assume that they are being ‘duped’ or buying into gender norms. What the fuck? Are we fighting for gender liberation so that we can tell people how to express themselves? You have no idea where someone else is coming from, or what gender journey has led them where they are today.
Gender Fuck is My Boyfriend (Polyamory is My Girlfriend)
Lovin’ this zine.
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YES THANK YOU YES
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(Posted as a reminder to myself and others cause I’vee pulled this shit before myself and it’s not cute)
~empathy~ hello
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Basically why I don’t get behind most movements in which if you are not subversive enough for the group then you’re automatically cast as the enemy.
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The great thing about transmisogynistic feminism is that it’s really easy to build a movement that attempts to reduce women to genitalia. There already is one! It’s called “patriarchy.”
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hm you know i think that a large part of the reason that the “i always knew/i was always different” narrative of trans experiences is so popular and widely spread is that it’s comforting to cis people
when a trans person tells a cis person that they always knew they were different, the cis person can feel comforted knowing that that’s not their experience; they’re not a budding trans person, they’re Safe
whereas when a trans person tells a cis person that “well you know i never really knew; it was just something that came up” the cis person doesn’t have that buffer; if it Just Happened to someone else, why couldn’t it Just Happen to them? there goes their security; this trans person hasn’t been Different all their lives, was always as Normal as the cis person, but then they weren’t. maybe Cis Person is actually just like Trans Person, but they just don’t know it yet. whoa. scary.
so cis people reject that idea, because no way in hell are THEY ever going to be Like That. and i think that’s a large part of why people who don’t say it’s something they’ve always known are shamed and told that they’re not trans enough, not really trans, just faking it. in reality all trans experiences are equally valid, but in this system of hierarchy only certain trans experiences are allowed to be exposed to the world at large.
Truth bombs from Frederick right here.
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promo poster featuring a double helix with “XX” over it
I dig the new all ladies x-men team. Please help me in calling out Brian Wood and Marvel that their promo featuring the XX (chromosome reference) is cissexist and transmisogynystic. Not all women have XX chromosomes and not all XX chromosomal folk are women. If you want to help tweet @brianwood and @marvel that the promo is transmisogynystic; #notallxx
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PS: Due credits to Autumn for the concept.
[“Oppression doesn’t require intent to thrive. In fact, the way oppression thrives best is by allowing people to marginalize people without intent, as that shows that the ideologies of sexism, racism, gender essentialism or cissexism are so ingrained in you that you don’t even notice it.”]](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m5ltjt8zou1rvzyvqo1_500.png)
PS: Due credits to Autumn for the concept.
[“Oppression doesn’t require intent to thrive. In fact, the way oppression thrives best is by allowing people to marginalize people without intent, as that shows that the ideologies of sexism, racism, gender essentialism or cissexism are so ingrained in you that you don’t even notice it.”]
I saw this on someones blog and decided to make it rebloggable.
Yes, because trans* people and asexuals are so fucking trendy and cool.
F: everyone wants to be trans* and asexual
(I don’t have the energy to write out the text in the image right now and I’m really sorry about that. (And if anyone else wants to do it I’ll reblog it or edit it in here if you leave it in my inbox.) Basically it’s a response to an ask on someone’s blog wherein the answerer goes on and on and on about how asexual/aromantic folks are special snowflakes going through a phase and appropriating LGBT shit or some nonsense.)
DEER GOD. I wish I understood why people like this assbutt seem to think any of these things are ~~new~~. Asexual and aromantic folks existed long before tumblr, alright? All that tumblr and similar places do is give people who are often physically isolated from each other somewhere to come together. Just because you‘ve never heard of something doesn’t make it new.
Also, what’s with all this “if you identify with something ‘new’ you are just in it for attention” nonsense? Eesh. If we really wanted attention, I can think of so many better ways to go about getting it than to lay claim to a particular gender or sexual orientation. I can’t speak for everyone on this, but I for one spend most of my time trying to convince people that my gender and sexual orientation are nothing to write home about (and more importantly, none of their goddamn business).
The whole “non-cishet people want to be special” rhetoric revolves around the assumption that any identity other than cisgender heterosexual is “special,” aka freaky, weird, and made-up. In short, it is incredibly insulting. Fuck you and good day.
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