Ciscentrism SUCKS!: Archive

Ciscentrism SUCKS!

January 2011

116 posts

After Don't Ask Don't Tell, transgender... →

pansexualpride: Last April, Autumn Sandeen traveled from San Diego to Washington, D.C., donned her Naval uniform, and handcuffed herself to the White House fence. Eight months later, the civil disobedience paid off: On Dec. 22, President Obama signed a repeal of “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” into law, allowing gays and lesbians to serve openly in the U.S. military. At Tuesday night’s State of the Union...

Anonymous asked: I know I'm cis, and I understand to an extent that it might seem appropriative - but if someone tells me what kind of clothing I should be wearing on the basis of my gender I will rip their head off. It seems like they're saying cis people have to wear gender-normative clothing. In general I prefer clothing that's marketed toward men. I am MORE COMFORTABLE with more neutral or...

Anonymous asked: misterstibbons has it right. I know logically that they can wear whatever the hell they want to wear, but emotionally, I can't help but feel a little irritated when my friend talks about wanting to get guy's jeans apparently just for the sake of having guy's jeans. However, I am wary of bringing it up, because I don't want to police anybody's gender expression, having been...

*** Trigger Warning *** SNL's Transphobic skit... →

spectrumnaut: (via Ms. Magazine) Posting because some people wanted to see what happened.

cephalopodadmirer-deactivated20 asked: I think that anon with the question about their friends wearing clothes not conventionally associated with their gender was talking more about feeling like non-trans friends making non-normative sartorial choices was a bit appropriative, because they're messing with boundaries for fun whereas the trans person does it as a means of asserting their identity (and I apologize to the anon person...

Anonymous asked: As a trans person, I sometimes feel resentful when my cis friends crossdress as a fashion statement (mainly when my cis female friends purposely wear men's clothing, as I am AFAB), because for me it is a lot more important than just fashion, especially as I am pre-op. If it was a specific shirt or something they happened to like I wouldn't mind, but when they talk about wanting to wear...

The thing is, when the bigoted nature of "comedy"...

spectrumnaut: Dear Privilege Denying Dude, you need to check your privilege if you are going to refer to something like SNL’s transphobia last night with: “It’s comedy. You all are stupid.” You know why they don’t treat white gay guys, like yourself, like they do trans* people anymore? Because people stopped saying “It’s comedy,” and they started standing up for themselves. We are just...

stfubinarists: My friend, who I’m out to, mentioned to a bunch of other people that she’d ‘kissed a girl’. The problem is, the only person who is not a man she’s ever kissed is me. I’m non-binary (CAFAB). SCREEEEEAM. I second your reaction. SCREEEEAM. Erasure (kissed a non-binary CAFAB person, calling said person a girl), cissexism (thinking CAFAB=girl), binarism (thinking non-binary people...

DON'T INCLUDE THE T UNLESS YOU ARE ACTUALLY...

contrajackson: “T” is not an orientation. “T” has nothing at all to do with the “L,” the “G” or the “B.” Being an ally of and an advocate for LGB rights is not the same thing as being a trans* ally. Not even close. Barely in the same universe. This never fails to piss me off.

Lady Gaga cannot lead the trans* movement

freshfeminism: She is cis She has no idea what it is like to be trans* She has no idea what cissexist oppression feels like The trans* movement has to be led by trans* people End of story. She can, however, help with the queer movement. She is bisexual. She knows what heterosexism and heteronormativity feels like. But can she really lead any movement on her own? Probably not. There’s...

“D.C. police last week arrested a transgender woman for spraying a chemical...”

– “DC officer accused of anti-trans assualt” via Washington Blade The link could be possibly triggering. Either way, this pisses me off. (via lostgrrrls)

So I went to a Quiz Night tonight.

yes-tak-si: The picture round was called “Lady or Lady-boy”. I really didn’t even know what to say. I know it was meant to be humorous and I know no one there took offence particularly, but I couldn’t help but feel very very uncomfortable. All the women I saw in the pictures looked amazing. They were women. Not “lady boys” or any of that transphobic bollocks. They were women. I believe in...

Anonymous asked: whats ur own tumblr?

Projectqueer, calm down.

freshfeminism: I responded to your ask. http://freshfeminism.tumblr.com/post/2876428230/hello-i-am-the-person-who-created-and-currently-runs And I just sent you an ask giving you the link to my response. I thought I remembered seeing that. There you have it then.

projectqueer asked: Hello! This is a bit lengthy, but please stick with me here.

I have sent the following message to freshfeminism - about 2 days ago - and I have not gotten a reply back, so I would like you to be aware of my genuine interest in resolving an issue that she brought up recently. This issue was not brought to my knowledge by HER, but rather screen shot, and re-blogged through the...

stfubinarists: But that was also back when they thought shared bathrooms and “unisex” clothes would be really hip and groovy. And some of them still do think that way but the more operative word for them isn’t so much “feminist” these days as it is “fossilized.” From http://www.realadultsex.com/archives/2011/01/coming-out-cellar-feminism-men-21st-century#comment-18789 Oh yes, because it’s...

freshfeminism: NO FOR FUCK’S SAKE. So many things wrong with this. Bisexual means attraction to two genders. Bi means two. Two genders. Not necessarily women and men. A bisexual person can be attracted to genderqueer individuals and . There was some discussion on my blog about how most peoples’ definitions of bisexuality are rather binarist. There’s an example of it. ANOTHER THING. ...

STFU Binarists: We can't not assign gender! →

This is something that really pisses me off. First- the transphobic idea that you can assign a kid a gender, then not uphold gender roles, and that’ll be a-okay. Yeah, gender isn’t just roles and playing with toys, a trans kid still learns that their gender isn’t aceptable no matter what toys…

apoopgirl asked: (you dont have to post this, but sorry part of that last ask got deleted i dont know why! and sorry i forget words sometimes or use the wrong ones! sometimes i try to edit but for some reason my computer doesn't let me scroll in ask boxes so i can't see all of it and edit correctly)

anyway, thanks for having such a great blog, i just started following you and i really love...

apoopgirl asked: yup, and oops i meant to say that the hetero person sees the trans person's genitals as NOT real. so, if it's a man and he meets a trans woman, he doesn't see her as a woman. he sees it as a man. because she was born a so some people are just assholes and are attracted to "real" women, not those who have had their bodies reconstructed to look like a woman's. for...

stfubinarists: I’ve been amazed at the response this blog has had. It’s only been up and running two days, and the followers list is already three pages long. I know the subject matter can be triggering and somewhat grim to read, and that makes the response all the more incredible. Thank you, all, and special thanks to everyone who’s submitted. Got binarism? Submit it! For those of you who...

apoopgirl asked: i'm personally open to any gender and sex, as long as i'm attracted to them of course. I guess the overlap i see is people who say they are hetero, generally do not want to date a trans person because the genitals are "real". i guess i understand that, i personally dont feel that way. but now i see IT IS being transphobic.

Anonymous asked: I do not know if I am explaining this correctly...

I had something similar happen to me. I dated a transsexual and accepted them as they truly should be with no questions. I didn't start getting confused until after I wrote something for vir and dressed as a transsexual for a few hours as something we talked about.

When I posted it and others within my school...

Anonymous asked: "I hope that you’re just misunderstanding me and not deliberately asking people to continue being transphobic."

...So I worded that last bit oddly, fine. You're not adequately addressing her problems with a woman having a penis, and instead giving her back-pats for trying to get over that. The getting over it is good, but the attitude of glossing over the...

Anonymous asked: "if you.. won’t sleep with them just because of their genitalia, that’s not fine."

That is not at all true. If you are not attracted to their genitalia (e.g. vulva or penis) then you are not attracted to their body. Sexual attraction is partially (depending on the person) physical attraction. If you are not physically attracted to someone and don't want to...

fatgirlsayswhat asked: Anon, I never, EVER said or would say that a trans*/trans woman is not a real woman because of whatever sort of genitalia she had. I was never making a statement about who others were. I was only saying it was difficult for *me* to sexually interact with genitals that my body/(my mind?) sexually associates with a different gender. My issues with how my sexuality works do not dictate anything about...

Anonymous asked: Re: http://ciscentrismsucks.tumblr.com/post/2844933257/im-enjoying-reading-the-comments-that-are-coming-up

Oh hey, her transmisogyny is now glaringly obvious! I am unamused with you congratulating her on "trying" to come to terms with the fact she cannot see a trans woman as a "real" woman just for having a penis. Seriously not cool.

Anonymous asked: My take on the trans vs. trans* thing is there is already the distinction between binary and nonbinary trans people with the words binary and nonbinary, thus the asterisk is somewhat redundant except perhaps to further shorten the labels. Plus, I am uncomfortable with there being a distinction in using trans or trans* because nonbinaries are already considered "less trans" than binary...

fatgirlsayswhat asked: I'm enjoying reading the comments that are coming up around the issue I asked about, just thought I might chime in again to make some clarifications.

I feel like I could absolutely sleep with someone who is genderqueer/non-binary/ has no specific gender identity and encounter their genitals and be totally cool. BUT, I feel like if I was, say, dating a MtF woman and in bed with...

Anonymous asked: There's a line there that keeps being crossed. While it is transphobic to say you don't consider people who are trans* attractive, and the other asker's questions did belie many problematic concepts, is there an issue in saying you don't want to have sex with someone with certain genitalia? If we're talking about sex, why are not the genitals relevant to sexual attraction;...

Trans vs Trans*

I’ve gotten four different questions addressing this, so I’ll try to answer them all in one. Basically what I’ve learned from the askers is that trans* began to be put into use because a lot of people were using trans to refer only to binary trans people, thus erasing non-binary trans identities, and so trans* began to be used by people conscious of non-binary trans identities,...

elfstaranymore asked: I really don't see how it is ever okay to tell someone who they should and should not be attracted to, or how they should or should not identify.

I am personally genderqueer, masculine and FAAB. If someone who is attracted to men finds me masculine enough to be attractive, but can't deal with the fact that I have a vagina, I would rather they just be straight-up honest...

Anonymous asked: Re: http://ciscentrismsucks.tumblr.com/post/2843838974/to-the-one-person-wrt-bi-sexual-pansexual-pansexual

You should have also said to this girl that people who aren't binary can also be trans. Trans =/= actively transitioning to the "opposite" gender. Trans = a dissonance between one's assigned sex and one's gender identity.

apoopgirl asked: yes, yes i understand more clearly now. thank you. and i agree because i see the person is saying they may be attracted to those people, but is uncomfortable with their genitalia. which is definitely a problem.

but....then are you saying people who feel attracted to ONLY males and females are being transphobic? i don't know i feel like that's unfair.

apoopgirl asked: is it possible that that person acknowledges the beauty in those people, but just isn't sexually attracted to them? and isn't that an okay way to be?

literallyaimee-deactivated20110 asked: to the one person wrt bi-sexual / pansexual: pansexual doesn't mean you would hump a trans person, a binary identified trans person would fall under bisexual.

pansexual covers people who dont identify as men or women, not trans people.

fatgirlsayswhat asked: I actually just want to check in on/address a certain personal issue.

I am a cis woman and identify sexually as "queer". When pushed for more information, I will reluctantly identify as "bi-sexual". I steer away from the term "bi-sexual" because I don't want to perpetuate the harmful concept of a gender binary, but at the same time, I don't...

This reeks of binarism! →

stfubinarists: and they defend themselves with “It’s my opinion, you have yours.” Ah yes, the delights of the sacred opinion. The Sacred Opinion is a defense used when accused of bigotry of all types, although this is not a recognised defence by most decent human beings. Y’know, the reason you ‘don’t believe in genderqueer,’ is probably because *gasp* YOU’RE NOT. And yes, of course gender is...

justbeinghunter: I am trying to discuss the whole transphobic incident with suicide girls with a bunch of lesbians I know. I posed the question of what makes someone a man or a woman and I seem to be getting tons of “Their parts decide whether someone is female or male” and “They were born with penis/vagina therefor they are guys/girls” and “Getting a sex change doesn’t make you a really...

Berkeley May Pay for Sex-Change Operations →

fuckyeahftms: From the San Francisco Chronicle I saw this article. What do you guys think? “A proposal that would cover the cost of sex-change operations for city employees in Berkeley is set for a City Council vote Tuesday night. Berkeley health insurance providers Kaiser Permanente and Health Net don’t pay for gender-reassignment surgery under the city’s current health plans. The City...

Academic Activists Make a Case For Transgender... →

pansexualpride: Most people think of LGBT issues as adult issues. But people are increasingly coming out of the closet when they’re young. And children aren’t just discovering their sexuality at a young age, they’re discovering their gender. Behind most activism are non-profit organizations and grassroots organizers pushing for change. But the fight to recognize the concept of transgender...

stfubinarists: [after coming out non-binary] You have periods, right? So you’re a woman. I know you want to be a man, but there’s no need for this. If a graph was plotted, cissexism would correlate with binarism; this one appears to be very high on the cissexism/transphobia scale. This delightful specimen combines binarism… and cissexism! Priceless! (the snark, it burns) 1. It’s no-one...

stfubinarists: If you’re not a man or a woman, you’re nothing. This one from my own experience. Well, of course I’m nothing. That’s why I don’t exist. That’s why I’m not standing here right now. That’s why I’m not talking to you right now. Oh yeah, I do exist, don’t I? Logic FAIL, my friend. And just because I don’t have gendered identities, doesn’t mean I don’t have any. I’m quite a lot of...

Hi, my name is the word "normal."

abandonthelifeboats: I do a lot of damage to people, usually via the process of othering. I have a lot of fun though when the group that’s being oppressed uses me to describe people who aren’t like them, though, even when they know better words to use that could even be very simply explained to someone as “not -x-,” which might not always be the entirely accurate definition, but.. Ugh....

Not Going to Let This Die

fuckyeahftms: This community has been too supportive and done too much for the trans community, and I for one am not letting a bunch of bigoted hackers take it down. It will take a little time to get this thing back up and running but I think we can do it, together, as a community. Three cheers!

Your Y Chromosome Ain't Got Nothin On Me: I've... →

xxboy: xxboy: The site appears to have been taken down. Yesterday the moderator mentioned that he had received threatening, transphobic submissions. This is the last thing he posted (thanks to Google’s cache): It’s very possible that the person sending threats followed through. Last summer, someone… Got an email from the moderator. Here is what he says: Hey, sorry it has taken me a bit...

“My room is a label free zone. The words used to describe sex, gender and...”

– genderfork (via pansexualpride)