Ciscentrism SUCKS!

"Trans men are MEN. Not special edition sparkly vampire fluffy unicorn womyn-space-compatible..."

Wed, 15 May 2013 15:15:25 -0400

“Trans men are MEN. Not special edition sparkly vampire fluffy unicorn womyn-space-compatible men-lite. It is utterly, utterly, utterly fucked up to even suggest that they should be allowed in womens’ spaces, especially at the expense of trans women.”

- freedominwickedness (via kiriamaya)

^^^^^
(via wintergrey)

corgabe: God I can’t believe this still needs to be said but - If you’re celebrating something...

Tue, 14 May 2013 14:34:44 -0400

corgabe:

God I can’t believe this still needs to be said but -

If you’re celebrating something that’s main point is to “make men think before they objectify a women” and it does so by showing hyper-sexualized but vague shots of a person, and it turns out the person isn’t a cis woman and it ””””makes men think”””” because not everyone is cis

You

are

a

trans-misogynist

Trans women get called “traps” and these commercials and other fuckery are using that stereotype. And the reason trans women are murdered most of the time is because a cis man doesn’t “think” when this shit happens - he gets fucking angry. The trap scenario can kill a MAAB trans person and people are using it to make points that only benefit cis women.

Stop throwing trans women and non-binary conforming MAAB folk under the bus for your goddamn feminism.

psa

Mon, 13 May 2013 23:03:43 -0400

whathunter:

insisting that everyone with a penis has male privilege is basically equating penises with maleness, which is cissexism and„„„„

drumroll„„„„„„„„„

a tool of the patriarchy

#surprise you accidentally kicked urself in the ass

Trans 101 for Trans People

Mon, 13 May 2013 21:40:02 -0400

Trans 101 for Trans People:

tranwrecks:

A Trans 101 For Trans People

You are human. You are worthy of respect. You deserve to be treated with the same dignity as anyone else. There is nothing inherently wrong with your gender. You are not broken, you are not disgusting, you do not deserve to be hurt.

You’ve been brought up and live in a world that’s designed to erase and demonize your existence, you’ve probably internalized a lot of that- and that’s not your fault. But it can be hard to deal with. But you aren’t alone in dealing with it. And sometimes you have to buy into it to be able to handle it (trigger warning: transphobic violence). And that’s okay.

Your gender is no more or less than anyone else’s. Your history doesn’t make you “not really” or “less” your gender than someone with a cis history, it just makes you a person of your gender with a different history.

You do not deserve to be held to higher standards than cis people. You do not have to “prove” your gender by forcing yourself into societal roles that may not fit. You are not “failing” anyone by fitting into societal roles that are comfortable. It is not your job to break down the binary/patriarchy/or anything else. If you want to, go for it, but you have no obligation to do anything for cis people just because you are trans.

Being yourself does not hurt trans rights (so long as you aren’t trying to do so while stopping others from being who they are) and is not a reason why people don’t have to treat you with respect. There is nothing wrong with being a feminine man or masculine woman, or being a person who’s comfortable in their body, or being a person who doesn’t transition all the way, or being out about having a non-binary or genderqueer gender. You have not “failed” anyone by doing this, you are not “less” of your gender than someone else. Being who you are is not a valid argument for why people can’t treat you as who you truly are.

No one else has the right to say your body needs to be changed. It only does if you need to change it. Or if you want to change it, that’s valid, too. Your body does not make you “less” your gender. It doesn’t make you “not really” your gender. It doesn’t mean you’re trapped in someone else’s body. You do not have to fix your body to “become” your gender- you already are your gender. All you need to do is what you need to do to be comfortable in your body. And if that includes reclaiming your right to label your own body, you are allowed to do that.

You have just as much of a right to privacy as anyone else. You do not need to tell anyone about your body, your medical history, or anything else. Whether or not your body needs to be changed for you to be comfortable, you do not have to change it to deserve to be treated as who you are. You do not owe anyone intimate details about your personal life before you can be treated as who you are.

You have no obligation to educate anyone. This includes trans people, but is most important with cis people. You are not a walking encyclopedia of transgender and/or transsexual information, you are a person. You do not have to answer every question any cis person comes up with, you do not have to represent trans people as a whole, (see 7) you do not have to bare the most personal and vulnerable parts of your soul to other people on demand.

Not educating people does not “hurt” trans rights. NEVER let anyone try to guilt you into educating people or doing something you don’t want to do by insisting that doing otherwise will “destroy trans rights/acceptance/whatever”. Trying to force trans people to become walking information desks or to put themselves in dangerous situations regardless of whether or not you’re even up for dealing with this destroys trans rights and shows a great deal of intolerance. Asserting that you don’t have to tell anyone anything you don’t want to? That really doesn’t.

If you do want to educate people, you are allowed to set limits and boundaries. You are allowed to say that you won’t talk about certain issues, or that you will only talk about them on your terms. You are allowed to decide which people you will talk to about which issues. You are allowed to change these boundaries if you become uncomfortable educating people you were previously willing to educate. You are not obligated to educate anyone just because you educated someone else.

You deserve to take care of yourself- whatever that means. You deserve to be comfortable and safe. You deserve not to be in dangerous situations. If you can’t handle something alone, you deserve to ask for- and get- help or, if you can, take a break from it until you can handle it. Or just stop doing it all together, that’s okay. Taking care of yourself does not make you weak, it does not make you an attention-grabber or overdramatic, it does not make you “less” your gender, it does not mean you betray other trans people by not being a full-time (or even part-time) activist. You’re human, you have limits, and that’s okay.

You deserve to have your boundaries respected. Any boundaries- how and where people can touch you, what information you give to who and when, what places you feel comfortable going or who you feel comfortable going with, what people can tell others about you.

You deserve to have the words you are and aren’t comfortable being referred to as respected. You deserve to have the proper pronouns used (and, if there are times when it’s unsafe for that to happen, you deserve to have your safety maintained by those around you), you deserve to be called the proper name, you deserve to have the words you want used to describe your body used, you deserve not to be called by any label, pronoun, word, or name that you don’t want to be called.

If you’re asking for something that you need to feel respected, comfortable, and safe- you are not asking for too much. Your identity is not “too complicated”. Your needs are not less important than anyone elses’.

You are human. You are worthy of respect. You deserve to be treated with the same dignity as anyone else. There is nothing inherently wrong with your gender. You are not broken, you are not disgusting, you do not deserve to be hurt.

"Let’s stop policing ourselves and each other. Gender is one game that you don’t have to play by..."

Mon, 13 May 2013 16:24:49 -0400

“Let’s stop policing ourselves and each other. Gender is one game that you don’t have to play by anyone else’s rules. The real danger in this ‘gender is a social construct’, ‘abolish gender’ crap is that in gendertopic spaces, anyone who is not subversive enough, or is seen as ‘gender normative’ already fails. We (and I’m guilty of this too) assume that they are being ‘duped’ or buying into gender norms. What the fuck? Are we fighting for gender liberation so that we can tell people how to express themselves? You have no idea where someone else is coming from, or what gender journey has led them where they are today.”

- Gender Fuck is My Boyfriend (Polyamory is My Girlfriend)

Lovin’ this zine.

(via genderqueer)

YES THANK YOU YES

(via lunardust)

(Posted as a reminder to myself and others cause I’vee pulled this shit before myself and it’s not cute)

~empathy~ hello

(via rebirthcycle)

Basically why I don’t get behind most movements in which if you are not subversive enough for the group then you’re automatically cast as the enemy.

(via thegoddamazon)

riotrite: The great thing about transmisogynistic feminism is that it’s really easy to build a...

Tue, 30 Apr 2013 22:14:29 -0400

riotrite:

The great thing about transmisogynistic feminism is that it’s really easy to build a movement that attempts to reduce women to genitalia. There already is one! It’s called “patriarchy.”

hidden-agender: birdsmooches: hm you know i think that a large part of the reason that the “i...

Sun, 17 Feb 2013 15:18:03 -0500

hidden-agender:

birdsmooches:

hm you know i think that a large part of the reason that the “i always knew/i was always different” narrative of trans experiences is so popular and widely spread is that it’s comforting to cis people

when a trans person tells a cis person that they always knew they were different, the cis person can feel comforted knowing that that’s not their experience; they’re not a budding trans person, they’re Safe

whereas when a trans person tells a cis person that “well you know i never really knew; it was just something that came up” the cis person doesn’t have that buffer; if it Just Happened to someone else, why couldn’t it Just Happen to them? there goes their security; this trans person hasn’t been Different all their lives, was always as Normal as the cis person, but then they weren’t. maybe Cis Person is actually just like Trans Person, but they just don’t know it yet. whoa. scary.

so cis people reject that idea, because no way in hell are THEY ever going to be Like That. and i think that’s a large part of why people who don’t say it’s something they’ve always known are shamed and told that they’re not trans enough, not really trans, just faking it. in reality all trans experiences are equally valid, but in this system of hierarchy only certain trans experiences are allowed to be exposed to the world at large.

Truth bombs from Frederick right here.

promo poster featuring a double helix with “XX”...

Sat, 02 Feb 2013 17:38:51 -0500

promo poster featuring a double helix with “XX” over it

I dig the new all ladies x-men team. Please help me in calling out Brian Wood and Marvel that their promo featuring the XX (chromosome reference) is cissexist and transmisogynystic. Not all women have XX chromosomes and not all XX chromosomal folk are women. If you want to help tweet @brianwood and @marvel that the promo is transmisogynystic; #notallxx

rationalhub: PS: Due credits to Autumn for the...

Thu, 21 Jun 2012 14:28:14 -0400

rationalhub:

PS: Due credits to Autumn for the concept.

[“Oppression doesn’t require intent to thrive. In fact, the way oppression thrives best is by allowing people to marginalize people without intent, as that shows that the ideologies of sexism, racism, gender essentialism or cissexism are so ingrained in you that you don’t even notice it.”]

checkdatprivilege: lord-kitschener: ferrets-are-awesome: I...

Sun, 10 Jun 2012 15:55:05 -0400

checkdatprivilege:

lord-kitschener:

ferrets-are-awesome:

I saw this on someones blog and decided to make it rebloggable.

Yes, because trans* people and asexuals are so fucking trendy and cool.

F: everyone wants to be trans* and asexual

(I don’t have the energy to write out the text in the image right now and I’m really sorry about that. (And if anyone else wants to do it I’ll reblog it or edit it in here if you leave it in my inbox.) Basically it’s a response to an ask on someone’s blog wherein the answerer goes on and on and on about how asexual/aromantic folks are special snowflakes going through a phase and appropriating LGBT shit or some nonsense.)

DEER GOD. I wish I understood why people like this assbutt seem to think any of these things are ~~new~~. Asexual and aromantic folks existed long before tumblr, alright? All that tumblr and similar places do is give people who are often physically isolated from each other somewhere to come together. Just because you‘ve never heard of something doesn’t make it new.

Also, what’s with all this “if you identify with something ‘new’ you are just in it for attention” nonsense? Eesh. If we really wanted attention, I can think of so many better ways to go about getting it than to lay claim to a particular gender or sexual orientation. I can’t speak for everyone on this, but I for one spend most of my time trying to convince people that my gender and sexual orientation are nothing to write home about (and more importantly, none of their goddamn business).

The whole “non-cishet people want to be special” rhetoric revolves around the assumption that any identity other than cisgender heterosexual is “special,” aka freaky, weird, and made-up. In short, it is incredibly insulting. Fuck you and good day.

dorkvahkiin: maybe we need to talk about the word “shame” as it pertains to inclusion and...

Fri, 08 Jun 2012 17:50:53 -0400

dorkvahkiin:

maybe we need to talk about the word “shame” as it pertains to inclusion and oppression, tumblr, because like you keep using that word and i don’t think it means what you think it means.

it’s not being used in the textbook-dictionary-definition sense — in terms of oppression, you can pretty much only be shamed if it’s possible to be bullied back into a status of not existing/being invisible. like, you can shame a fat person because thin is not only considered the norm, but it’s generally the only body type considered worthy of personhood, so if a fat person annoys your or bothers you or disgusts you, you can apply society-backed shame to their existence to throw them into a light that better satisfies you — i.e., you can basically force them to stop taking up metaphorical (or even physical) space that you don’t want them to occupy by throwing social norms (that they don’t fit) at them until they kowtow or until you feel better.

you can shame a trans* person for being out or for expressing themselves by comparing them to what you (and society at large) views as “normal” gender [expression]. that’s where shame comes from in the context of oppression. it comes from the fact that there are a certain set of rules that society at large accepts and abides by, and can thus be used as ammunition against anyone who falls outside that set of standards.

so when you use the term “shame” regarding the majority or the group in power, whatever they may be in the context of the discussion (cis people, white people, thin people, etc.), you’re basically kind of appropriating a term used to describe a form of prevalent and deeply emotional/traumatizing oppression. because shame isn’t just saying “haha/ew gross, you’re [this].” shame is a tool used to force oppressed groups into your idea of normal/acceptable.

you can’t really “shame” someone for being cis — “i don’t like/don’t trust cis people” is not something that carries shame with it. sure, you can feel uncomfortable with that statement, but it’s not backed by the weight of societal norms. it’s not backed by laws or hate crimes or anything. cis IS the norm. it’ll roll off your shoulders eventually because if you’re cis, you go through life every day getting re-affirmed from every direction that you are The Right and Acceptable Kind. whereas trans* folk get the exact opposite. we’re constantly told that we are unfit, strange, unnatural, fake, etc. in everyday situations that you might not even think about — that you don’t HAVE to think about because you’re in the majority/group in power. like, say, using a public restroom. that’s a no-brainer for a cis person. if you’re a cis woman, it’s the stick figure with a skirt. if you’re a trans* woman, it’s a debate, it’s a life choice, it’s wondering and fearing if you’ll get told to leave the bathroom, if you’ll get reported to security under the assumption that you’re attempting to harass other women when you just have to pee.

and that — that’s what shame is. shame is KNOWING that even if it’s not right, even if it’s unfair, even if it’s hurtful and traumatic, whatever this person is saying — whatever form of shame they’re using — is true enough in society’s eyes. it’s an inescapable fact that follows you around. it’s not just a one-off comment that makes you uncomfortable. it’s a set of oppressive standards that actively limits how you can live your life safely.

so, yeah. just…i’m p sure that word does not really mean what you think it means.

Quote of the year

Thu, 31 May 2012 16:38:55 -0400

zjemptv:

“It’s weird how the definition of ‘ally’ has gone from ‘people outside our group who genuinely support us in our quest for equality’ to ‘people who will withdraw their support if they and their feelings aren’t centered in the discussion’.”

-electricsouls

The story of the trans girl who lost her appeal is two months old and I haven't seen more recent updates. What I heard was that she wasn't institutionalized but that she was removed from the care of her mother and placed into foster care (from people who read that article in the original German). But I haven't heard anything since.

Wed, 30 May 2012 23:58:57 -0400

Ah, thanks for the update. Wish I’d heard of it earlier. :/

Update: 11 year old trans girl lost appeal [& will be institutionalized for transness]

Wed, 30 May 2012 23:52:00 -0400

Update: 11 year old trans girl lost appeal [& will be institutionalized for transness]:

quintessential-queer:

babstheartist:

msamberhazard:

msamberhazard:

tal9000:

transawareness:

The above article is an update. Her mother went to appeal to keep her out of the psychiatric ward and lost. She will be institutionalized because of her expression of her gender. She will be held until she conforms to male gender and then released to foster care, not her mother who was supporting her.

Please, if you haven’t signed the petition, sign it, reblog it, ask your friends to sign it. We’ve managed to get 40K signatures for a pageant model, we’ve only gotten 11K for a little girl about to have her life ruined. Lets get on the ball and spread the word.

Sign It.

I literally just repeated the f-word until I ran out of breath.

Let me catch my breath. I may go on a cursing spree again as soon as I get it back.

Seriously people…

WHY THE FUCK AREN’T PEOPLE REBLOGGING THIS??

holy fuck what

O_____________O

“Cis people struggle to grasp what it means to be trans -...

Fri, 25 May 2012 00:22:06 -0400

“Cis people struggle to grasp what it means to be trans - not just nonbinary, but trans in general - and I’m not sure they really need to. The question for me isn’t whether people ‘understand’ gender, but whether they can be respectful about it, whether they can interact with people who are trans without treating us as something abnormal and broken and wrong. I don’t need people to ‘get’ being genderqueer to treat me with respect, to not misgender me, after all.”

TranSquat

Wed, 23 May 2012 20:40:17 -0400

blackenedbutterfly:

zoedelaluna:

fuckyeahftmsofcolor:

Friends, and friends of iPhone. Hi, my name is Billy. I wrote an iPhone app called TranSquat. In a nutshell, it is a gender neutral bathroom finder that locates bathrooms that are gender free relative to your current location. You can search, add and share safe locations. It was written by and for the trans community. It is powered by data from safe2pee. You can help build the app by downloading and adding locations in your own communities.

On a personal note, I wanted to write an app for the trans community. It is also my fundraising goal to get 3000 downloads to help finance my surgery with Dr. Charles Garammone. So far, I only have 2956 to go. Every download helps.

Even better, if you would like to support this project you can donate to my top surgery fund at:
http://billyjack.chipin.com/dr-garramone .

Any help appreciated.

Finally, if you could share this with others whom might find this app useful and would like to support this project that would be much appreciated too!!! Thanks for reading.

Boosting…

noooo I don’t have 3 dollars

otherwise I would download this right away

ryankun: what not to do when someone asks you to use certain pronouns ask them why ask them whats...

Tue, 22 May 2012 14:39:12 -0400

ryankun:

what not to do when someone asks you to use certain pronouns

ask them why

ask them whats between their legs

tell them theyre wrong

hammer them with personal questions

what to do when someone asks you to use certain pronouns:

call them by those pronouns

have a snack if you want w/e youre pretty much done here

re: the pathology of being transgender

Wed, 16 May 2012 22:03:36 -0400

windsdarkpoem:

i don’t need therapy because i am trans

everyone else does

seriously my life is only difficult because so many people have so many fucking insecurities about their own shit that they project it all onto me and other transgender people

it’s ridiculous. i have figured my shit out. i know who i am. other people hate on me because they don’t know who they are.

genderbendingriotqueer: queeranarchist420: luceateis: Popular...

Fri, 11 May 2012 23:46:32 -0400

genderbendingriotqueer:

queeranarchist420:

luceateis:

Popular representation of “LGBT,” to scale.

Basically.

Accurate.

Image: “gay”, “lesbian”, and “…bisexual?” decreasing in size from left to right, then off to the far right, even smaller, “…transgender???”

WARNING: cissexism

Fri, 11 May 2012 16:01:36 -0400

jadelyn:

widdershinsgirl:

shemalepolice:

roseverbena:

Just an innocent “trans woman” harassed for going into the ladies’ room to pee? Right? WRONG. The one on the left (the “trans woman”) is a twice-convicted child sexual abuser who spent SIXTEEN years in prison for sexually assaulting a minor. The one on the right (the “husband”) is a convicted murderer and convicted sexual abuser of a 12-year-old child.

How many times do women have to post THE FACTS about criminal behavior by so-called “trans women” before people STOP LYING and saying that “trans women” never hurt women, can’t possibly be dangerous to women, should be able to freely enter women’s (formerly) safe and private spaces, be treated like one of us? A thousand? A hundred thousand? What’s it gonna take to BREAK THROUGH the denial and get people to SEE that some male-bodied, male-socialized, so-called “trans women” are in fact VERY dangerous.

Ahahah I’m glad that one gender variant rapist existing is like Christmas in July for you and all, but I can’t help but feel a mild sense of deja vu. Remember when you liked this post? I fixed it for you babe.

Oh and PS. No matter how many hours and days and weeks and years you spend blogging about how transgender people are rapists and a threat to society, you will eventually get bored and stop. Maybe you’ll realize you’re wrong first, maybe tumblr will fall out of popular favour first, maybe you’ll just get bored, but eventually you’ll stop.

And know what? Long after you and everybody like you stops, I will still be exactly the same person who I am now. Every other trans person will still be trans.

The end result is guaranteed. You will have completely wasted your time.

What in the ACTUAL fuck? How can anybody genericize one person or two people to an entire population and not be instantly seen by every human being with even the slightest semblance of a soul as an oppressor who needs to immediately own their shit and beg forgiveness?

Cis people, collect.

You know, for all that radscum are forever insisting that there is no such thing as cis privilege and trans* is not an oppressed class…look at how this power dynamic is playing out, right here in this thread. One trans woman is a convicted sex offender THEREFORE all trans women are rapists. Does that sound familiar at all? Here, let me give you some similar examples….

There are some Muslim terrorists THEREFORE all Muslims are terrorists.

Some women suck at math and science THEREFORE all women are incapable of having math/science careers.

Some black men are violent THEREFORE all black men are a threat to everyone else.

Do you see it yet? It’s the classic pattern of a trait exhibited by a member (or a few members) of an oppressed group being generalized to apply to ALL members of that same group, even though it’s a trait that also appears in the privileged counterpart group as well. Because when you reverse it, you get this…

There are some white Christian terrorists, but they’re crazy/fringe/lone wolf/etc.

Some guys suck at math and science, I guess their skills just lie elsewhere.

Some white guys are violent. It sucks but that’s just how some people are.

Hell, think about this - there are cis women sexual predators out there. This is a fact. But you don’t see most people looking at those examples and saying “oh my god cis women are RAPISTS and DANGEROUS”. That alone - the fact that in one direction, the “some rapists=all rapists” claim is presumed valid and pushed as if it’s true, but when the relevant groups are flipped, it’s just an individual, just a few bad apples - should tell you that there’s a privilege dynamic at work here, and it’s NOT “trans women are privileged over cis women”.

Fuck, you (OP) are just a terrible person for this.

Couldn’t have said it much better myself.

As for you, OP, you and your scare quotes can cry “it’s because they’re trans!” all day long but the fact is, cis women abuse children too.

Now get the fuck out. I’ve had just about enough of this bullshit for one lifetime.